When it’s a Verb!
There is a word in English that many of us misunderstand, me too, at least until recently. The word is village.
Definition #1:
A village is a clustered human settlement or community, larger than a hamlet, but smaller than a town or city.
Hmmm, pretty common definition but not very satisfying, how about this one?
Definition #2:
“The soul of India lives in its villages”, declared M. K. Gandhi at the beginning of 20th century.
Closer? Yes, but for me still not accurate at all.
I don’t think of the word village as a noun – I see village as a verb that invites community activity in real time – a way of life if you will. For me a village is a way of being together that demands care and love of others in an authentic fashion. A way that puts action into the words we use to describe village.
You see a village in my experience is not a place but an approach to life. When we make the mistake of thinking of it as a place with a name, a dot on a map, we are doing the word and the village’s people a great dis-service! Village then becomes a mere facsimile of the real thing and life goes on as it has in separate homes and family isolation.
After years and decades of this mistake we find a deep longing in most of our hearts for real connection, real communities and real loving support in action. Remember the expression, “It takes a village to raise a child.”? Well it takes a village to raise a healthy, passionate, loving person, a joyous couple and an amazing family. It takes all of us to support each and every one of us to live the great life that is waiting for each of us.
Many of us are quick to send money to third world countries, and end the war in Iraq or Afghanistan. These are worthy causes for sure and my deepest heart’s compassion goes out to the people but what about our next door neighbor, the family just down the street, the single home on the other side of the cul de sac?
My personal belief is I need to take care of my block before I set my eyes on saving the world. I need to create a living, breathing village that is healthy, passionate, and vitally alive – so alive that my ‘village’ becomes an example of how villaging can work.
We have it all backwards save the world first and yet we leave our own people living on the sidewalks turning our eyes to a bigger battle – this is where the glamour appears to be – the big fight. How about helping out locally with real human actions instead of a paper cheque? Donations are an indirect way of helping out – it keeps the people at arms length you see. By sending in a cheque we don’t have to face the real person and the real pain.
A few hints:
- Spend more time getting to know your neighbors
- Say hello to strangers in the shops, gas stations, and recreation centres
- Ask people their names and then introduce yourself
- Take someone else’s garbage cans up to their garage door just for fun
- Stop complaining about your neighbors and ask instead what you can do to help them
- Invite folks to your home and be generous with them, don’t be a stranger on your own block
- Surprise the person behind you in Starbucks and buy them a coffee
- If asked tell them why you are doing all of the above
Once you have broken the ice and your own ‘village’ is warmed up stay tuned for the next level village action. Remember the word village is a verb – take action each day to breathe love, kindness, and life into your ‘village’.
Stephen Garrett
WarriorSage Vice-President and Senior Trainer